PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS

How to develop good relationships and be popular:

1. Appreciate, but don’t flatter others: Be liberal in your hearty appreciation with good intentions and love for others. Avoid flattery, as it can hurt a person’s self-esteem.
2. Become a patient listener: If you don’t interrupt and patiently listen to other’s viewpoint, it will promote friendly feelings.
3. Don’t shout: Instead of shouting and crying, gently put across your viewpoint to others.
4. Be civilized and gentle: Rude behaviour creates tense atmosphere, while gentle and sweet manner of dealing leads to friendship.
5. Don’t be vindictive: To forgive and forget is the best policy, while developing resentment and revengefulness leads to confusion and wastage of energy.
6. Avoid egotism: Egotism is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Nobody likes a person having an unduly high opinion of himself.
7. Don’t be sarcastic: If somebody has done a good thing, do encourage him instead of being sarcastic in your attitude.
8. Don’t complain: During whole of your mutual talk with others, don’t complain or talk of some drawback in him.
9. Don’t be haughty: If you have a very high opinion of yourself and are unduly prideful, people will shirk in being friendly with you.
10. Be calm and cool: Be full of life with calm and cool mind irrespective of your grief caused by personal problems.
11. Live and let live: It is the best policy to follow because everybody has got own peculiar liking for a thing or object or ideas to follow and you should not impose any thing upon others.
12. Be helpful: Your helpfulness and good deeds to others in the long run are likely to bring good returns in the shape of goodwill or otherwise in various forms.
13. Meet freely to everybody: Be open to every body. If you don’t mix up with people who will care about you.
14. Be apologetic: Whenever the situation demands be apologetic about your mistake. It shall be helpful to win over others.
15. Be honest: Being honest in what you say or do will be helpful in maintaining your credibility.
16. Resolve differences: In case of controversy or dispute with anyone, resolve differences instead of nurturing grievances in your mind for an indefinite period.
17. Practical behaviour: In spite of frank admission by the other person about his weakness or drawback, don’t brand him so in your words and dealing with him. You should not repeat any thing negative uttered by him or her.
18. Lend with pleasure: Among friends there might be some occasions when to make ‘minor adjustments’ you may be asked to lend something. Lend a small amount of money with great pleasure.
19. Attend moments of grief and happiness: Give the people what they want. They might need your sympathy and encouragement during grief and sharing of happy moments at their especially happy occasions. Give them that and they will like you most.

                                                        SUCCESSFUL MAN
     When we a meet successful individual, we often say that he is lucky. However, we don’t observe how much persistent effort they made to achieve success. We also don’t observe any thing about his attitude, potentialities, capability, etc. to achieve success. In fact we can also bring change and develop some winning habits to achieve success. The following are some of the good points to pursue your goal.

I. Correct estimate of risk involved: The successful people are visionaries who collect complete knowledge and relevant important facts about the work they intend to do. When they are convinced about the success and do believe that the risks involved can be overcome, they take the decision to pursue their object without any tension.

II. Convert difficulties into opportunities: The successful people take maximum advantage of the opportunities in hand. They are not afraid of the difficulties involved in pursuing their object. Rather by surmounting difficulties they convert them into opportunities and make easy way to progress.

III. Don’t be obstinate: Unsuccessful individuals are often obstinate and incorrigible. Therefore, they don’t change themselves in spite of the setbacks. However, the successful individuals while correctly assessing their position adapt themselves as per the situation. If necessary, they change their priorities or modify their objectives without any ego. They are ever ready to learn from new experiences.

IV. Be optimistic and develop faith: The successful persons are optimistic, develop faith in their capabilities and are self-made. Instead of being pessimistic they are courageous to face the circumstances. They complete their work with fullest capability and capacity they possess.
V. Don’t quit: The successful persons fully know that a winner never quits, while a quitter never wins. Therefore, after receiving a setback, instead of cursing their fate they again try with full force to achieve their object.

The universe is transformation; our life is what our thoughts make it. –  (Marcus Aurelius).